The definition of a goal is “the object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result.” And as I’m doing research and investigating how to be more happy with my goals, or how to have a positive mindset when reaching a goal, I came across this concept of “seasons in life”.

Paraphrasing and generalizing it’s something along the lines of you as a human have different seasons for example, in your teens your want to get into college, in your twenties you want to start a career o a family, in your thirties you want to provide for love ones, in your forties… etc.

And what made me want to incorporated it into my life, is the notion that goals change depending on the season you are in!!! Mind blown!! You can want to graduate from collage and be a working mom in the season of studying, but then when you have a kid you realize you want to stay at home; or you think you want to start a family early on, but as you move through life you realize you don’t want to have kids. Things change as they do with the seasons…

And in my case, in this season of my life where I’m taking care of a small child, even thought personal fulfillment is important and something I’m working towards; my goal is to spend time with my daughter and not to miss her childhood. And somehow the knowing that seasons change, and therefore goals change… has given me peace of mind to just concentrate on what is important to me… right now. 

And while I am setting my “goals” for this season, I use my extra time to envision what I want my goals for my next season to be. Would I like more financial abundance? More freedom to travel? Would I prefer to cultivate a homestead where I know I am going to live for the rest of my life? 

And instead of working on what the next goal is suppose to be, make more money, travel, etc … I’m working on what makes me feel good; what ideas do I have now about the future that align with who I am. And while I am in this season of my life, enjoy my goal of being a present mom that is teaching by example… as much as I can.

This doesn’t mean that there are not other women out there that will thrive with setting a goal every month and achieving it. I’m realizing that I need to be more tuned with my emotions to do something long term. I will not follow through if I don’t feel good, regardless of how many goals I set for myself. 

And as I’m woking on my mindset and emotional wellbeing, I realized that I was being negative with myself (no shook there) and saying I ‘self sabotage’ when in reality I am like a hermit crab… I will try hundreds of shells for a little bit until I find one that fits. (can you tell I have a small child??)

So to all the hermit crabs out there… enjoy your season in life! And imagine what your next season will be! 

Love,

Sole

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